I have heard of the Love and Logic books about parenting in the adoptive parenting world for years now. I finally got the book and read it after it was recommended in the "Parenting the Hurt Child" book I just read. I really like it so far. It makes sense and I feel like I'm already seeing some results in terms of the kids doing some thinking for themselves. If only I could get my husband as interested in it and reading it so that we can work on this together. I would prefer that very much over him looking at me like I am crazy, and me feeling like every word out of his mouth goes against every thing I just read! Yikes!
I do NOT care for L&L at all. I think it can work well for a "normal" child on occasion, but for children who experienced early trauma it often seems unloving and uncaring, and the suggestion of denying food is just CRAZY!
ReplyDeleteAlso, I didn't read the books, but listened to their tapes and was really disgusted by a certain sense that they were tricking the children....and I think that is often what it boils down to.
I think some time ago L&L was one of the most "alternative" styles of discipline, but now there are some MUCH better approaches. Read Dr. Karyn Purvis "Empowered to Connect" and Heather Forbes "Beyond Consequences Logic and Control".